Recently, a very good friend of mine got engaged, to someone she's been in love with for over a decade. Sounds ideal, right, except, their love story is one riddled in complication & only really came to fruition just over a year ago. You see, for those ten long years, she was actually in a relationship with someone else, his best friend to be precise.
Lacking the courage to untangle herself from her steady relationship & risk destroying a friendship, she had conceded to the fact that the feelings she felt, would simply never be explored. That was until, her relationship finally broke down & a healthy time later, she found out that her object of desire had been harbouring feelings of his own. One year later he popped the question & here we are at their current engagement.
The point to this story is; when you know, you just know. So why do we waste so much time ignoring our intuition. A lot of the time, despite our intuitive thoughts & feelings, we still seem to go against the grain & find ourselves doing what's logical, rather than what actually feels right. Yet, afterwards, we wonder why we're unhappy & things haven't worked out in our favour.
A lot of it, I think, is about trust, as in the trust that we place in ourselves & our decision making capabilities. It's like when you had a niggling feeling about taking that job, yet, it was more money & looked great on paper, so you figured it was the best move. Now you sit at your desk wanting to gouge your eye out with a pencil, wondering why you feel so unfulfilled.
How many times have you, like me, barraged people with questions on what they think you should be doing, or where you should be heading, only to feel dissatisfied & disgruntled, because ultimately, you were looking for someone to reiterate your own thoughts & feelings, which you can't seem to trust to be right.
When we take the time to listen to ourselves, we realise, we don't even have to ask the questions, because we already know the answers. What we seem to be lacking is a little conviction. We need to start trusting our own judgement, rather than continually looking for validation in others.
Sometimes of course, it's about courage, going against society's imposed rules & restrictions, on what you should or shouldn't be doing. It's not easy to stand against a crowd, or perhaps even your own family & admit to wanting to do things differently, but that's the point, isn't it. How many other people are unhappy & unfulfilled, simply because they haven't found the courage within themselves to make a break & take a chance. To follow their heart's desire & do what feels right, for them.
Now is the time to make a change, because essentially, all life is, is now. Right now. Take the time to sit & listen to yourself, because the everyday noise of the world can be deafening. Really begin to understand what it is that makes you happy, figure out what drives you & what it is that you really want. Because, it's about how you feel on the inside that matters, not how things appear on the surface.
So press delete on every doubt you have & when your gut gives you direction, follow it.
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